The hobby of hotrodding is best done with a few good friends. Doing stuff by yourself kinda gets boring after awhile. We were made for each other. Over the years (i'm turning 40 this year) I've had friends come and go that were great to be with and we helped each other build our cars. Road trips to pick up parts and days at the races were great times we spent together. Friends get married, move away, chase after careers and even pass away. Some friends stay with you for life. I want to attempt to define friendship. Or more specifically list the attributes of a true friend as I see it. As a mechanic with a shop you tend to have lots of people try to be your friend. Always wanting something done or to use your shop. I don't mind this if these same guys will phone you up just to hang out or see what they can do for you. True friends give and take. Not just take. Do they really want to be around you or just when they benefit? Thats point number one.
Number two, do they listen to you or do you sometimes wonder if they see your number on their call display and not answer the phone? Most guys have a cell phone in one of two places these days. Their hand or their pocket. When i'm with some of my friends they are constantly checking their text messages or messenger notifications. Yet when i call or email they seem hard to get a hold of. Sometimes I never get a call back or a return email. Whats up with that? Or do they just treat everybody like that?
Point number three, Do they have the same interests as you? I have noticed that the car hobby is pretty all encompassing. Its takes alot of time and alot of money. Its a life style. Not many car guys are into sports. Because sports are the same way. And by sports i'm talking football, hockey, soccer, baseball, etc... If you are going racing and your "buddy" wants to stay home to watch the super bowl thats a good clue your friendship isn't to deep. When your friend would rather help you change a transmission in a snowbank than watch "street outlaws" , he is a keeper!! One of the biggest things to remember about friendships is to be one. Not just sit back and judge others performance. Even a true friend will tend to disappoint you occasionally but don't hold it against them. Be quick to talk it out and move forward. Don't hold a grudge.
The Bible says " There is a friend who sticks closer than a brother" and Jesus himself says of his friends " I will never leave you nor forsake you" and "greater love has no man than this, that someone lay down his life for his friend". The Bible has lots to say about friendship. Read the book of proverbs. Read the Gospels of Mathew, Mark, Luke and John. Read about the most famous friends : David and Johnathan. How do your friends measure up? How do you measure up? HOW DO I MEASURE UP?
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